LADY OF PURITY

80% of unmarried woman have lost their virginity by the time they reach the age of 20.


WHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATTTTT???????/!!!!!!!!!!!!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First of all, before I get into what I actually wanted to blog about: THAT IS ABSURD. I am honestly shocked, and appalled, at that statement. I mean, I know that tons of girls are being promiscuous in high school/college, but 80%?! That's just ridiculous. Anyways...now that I got that out of my system...this blog is about being a lady of purity.

As you all know, sex is tempting. It's desirable. We live in a world where sex before marriage is promoted in every aspect of our lives. TV, radio, friends, movies, songs, books, billboards, EVERYTHING. Media makes sex seem so fascinating. It's rarely frowned upon anymore. That honestly really upsets me. It makes me sick to think that so few people care about the intimacy and the bond that sex was created for. God wants us to have sex, lots of it. And He wants us to enjoy it. But, like most things in life, there is a right time for it.

It's like, say you're on a really strict diet. You're doing REALLY good for a few weeks, and then someone offers you a slice of cake. Rich, moist, delicious chocolate cake. Complete with the most insanely scrumptious icing in the whole entire world. You could seriously drool at the smell of this sweet treat. Cake is good. Cake is desirable. But when you're in the middle of a very strict diet, cake can make you really sick. Enjoying the enormous pleasure of that cake is wonderful -- but it's all about timing. God wants you to have cake --and sex-- but He wants you to wait.

"God wants you to be a Lady of Purity because He wants to protect you from the consequences that sex before marriage brings. These can be physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual."

PHYSICAL:
God wants to protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. They affect no only you, but your future husband. The next time you're tempted to have sex with someone you aren't married to, think about this: imagine the perfect proposal -- your perfect man, the perfect place, an amazing outfit, everything is exactly how you want it to be -- this perfect man is down on one knee and he asks you to spend the rest of your life with him. *insert girly, daydreaming sigh* You can't wait to say yes, but before you do...you have to tell him that you have an STD because you couldn't save yourself for him. ouch.

God wants to protect your 'first time.' It's like Christmas morning. When you're sitting around the tree and you open a gift that you've been wanting for a really long time: the feeling of excitement is incredible. But what if you've already seen it? What if you're like my brother and you sneak into your parents room and peek at the gift before it gets put under the tree. When you look at it in the closet, you are SO excited! Not so excited when you open that gift on Christmas, are you? That's because you already know what it is. There's no anticipation. You aren't fidgety. There's no 'I hope I like this, I can't wait to open it' feeling. Because you ruined it. You can't 'unsee' that present, just like you can't 'un-experience' your first time.

EMOTIONAL:
"God intricately and delicately formed women with emotional characteristics that differ from men. A woman cannot separate her emotions from her physical state. The man who touches your body, also touches your emotions. God made you that way, and He desires to protect your heart from being ripped apart by any man."

I've heard girls say that they're just having sex for the sex. They don't feel something for him, they just want to feel something ya know? No, actually, I don't know. All I know is that no matter how bad she wants to believe it, any girl who tells you that there was no emotional attachment is lying to you. God will forgive you, but it takes a long time to heal from the emotional damage that takes place after premarital sex. Let God protect your heart.

RELATIONAL:
Girls want to be known and loved for something other than their bodies. They want a relationship that is full of friendship and communication. Once you introduce physical passion into a relationship, it's hard for a guy to stop and be okay with just developing the friendship. This is where my motto "if it's not for sale, don't advertise it" comes in. It's like a bow on a present. If you let him play with the bow, he's going to want to untie it and unwrap the present. As a lady of purity, it is our duty to not distract him with the bow.

I know too many couples who have said, "well we're going to get married anyway so it's ok." False. Because once you get married, there is going to be a new form of insecurity racing into your relationship. "If he couldn't display self-control with me before we got married, how do I know he'll be able to display it when a hot young girl comes tempting him?" Putting a wedding band on a person's finger does not give them the instant power of self-control.

SPIRITUAL:
"Passion makes it difficult to see that God set physical limits to protect you spiritually." In Hebrews, it says that God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. It feels awful to be separated from the Lord because of the guilt of sin.

Actions speak louder than words. How can you share Christ with someone who knows your reputation? Are you causing younger/weaker brothers and sisters to stumble? 'One night of passion can totally destroy the reputation you have built over a lifetime.'


GUARDING THE TREASURE:
Okay, so the subtitle is a little 'piratey' but hey, we all love jack sparrows, right? Anyways, being a virgin in 2010 is hard. There. I said it. You have to protect yourself from the temptations of the rest of the world. You have to guard your purity. Make a list of reasons you want to remain pure until marriage. Don't lower your standards because you think it will capture a man's love forever. (It won't.) Be strong. Have a support group. Don't fall into the 'if you love me...' trap. Guard yourself from sweet talkers who will say anything just to get in your pants. Women are easily turned on by words and guys know that. Don't become one of their trophies. Don't become one of the 'conquered' that they "love" and leave. Save your body -- save your heart.


WHAT IF IT'S TOO LATE?:
Let God heal your broken heart with forgiveness. Once you have brought your sin to God, don't dwell on the past. Learn from your mistakes, but don't continue to beat yourself up with condemnation. Jesus paid for that on the cross. God is the God who forgives and forgets. You can be forgiven, and God will forget about it. And since God can forgive you, you must forgive others. That is the only way to feel completely free. "You will not be free of the hurt if you harbor bitterness. A quick way to ruin a beautiful complexion is to hold onto an unforgiving, bitter attitude." Give forgiveness, accept forgiveness, and don't feel like a damaged good. God has better in store for you. You are a treasure.




Remaining pure means so much more, to me, than saving sex for marriage. It's not about virginity...it's about purity. It's about not making out with every cute boy you meet. It's about taking care of your heart and your emotions. It's about being the type of person that you want your future love to be. It's being someone that your parents and God and future husband and kids will be proud of. It's about dancing with God and letting Him decide who is good enough to cut in.

I am a 20 year old virgin, and i'm not ashamed of it. I'm actually really proud of it, and i'm excited for the day when I can give my special gift to my husband. People always tell me not to expect to marry a virgin, because they're hard to come by these days. I hear the words, but I don't listen. I'm aware of the scarcity of virgins in America. If i'm strong enough to stay in the 20%, I think that God has created a beautiful man who is just as strong.



You are beautiful. You are a gift. Make your wedding night feel like Christmas morning.



peaceandlove<3